Some of us are born with the attitude or body language needed to make a positive impact on others. People notice your body language first, so do yourself (and those around you) a favor and learn what your body is saying about you. Check out these tips because they can help you in every area of your life, from friendships to crucial work interviews.
Make a happy face.
The majority of people are unaware that their “resting” face is really a scowl, which is a clear turn-off. You don’t have to smile from ear to ear all of the time; however, it’s a good idea to remind yourself to raise the corners of your mouth slightly.
Take your arms out of a crossed position.
Crossing your arms indicates that you want to be alone or that you are angry. Uncrossing your arms shows others (and yourself) that you are comfortable in the situation. I still find myself crossing my wrists, despite knowing this trick for years. It’s a natural habit to have, but it’s one that you must break if you want to make a positive impact on everyone around you.
Make sure you’re making good eye contact.
Try to strike a balance between looking into someone’s soul and being uninterested.
Sit or stand in a straight position.
Hunching over sends the message to others that you’re trying to defend yourself. You can be uneasy in the situation, but by maintaining proper posture, you can appear (and feel) more assured.
Allow your shoulders to relax.
Shoulders that are too straight will make you appear anxious, while shoulders that are slumped will make you appear sad or self-conscious. Find a comfortable position, allowing your shoulders to fall to a normal height.
Straighten your spine from head to toe, including your ears.
Even if your back is straight, craning your neck forward will change how people see you. Your whole spine should be straight unless you are looking at someone who is shorter than you. Keep reminding yourself to keep your “chin up,” and your neck will straighten out in a confident manner.
Take control of your personal space.
Those with a small frame take up less room and look more reserved. Imagine that you are demanding your room on the floor to counteract this. Stand with your feet apart rather than together. Place one (or both) hands on your hips to create the illusion of taking up more room than you actually do. This will demonstrate to others that, despite your small stature, you are confident.
Make a mirror image of the person with whom you’re conversing.
People like having their body language replicated because it makes them feel as though the other person understands or shares their thoughts.
Avoid staring at the ground.
Whether you’re inspecting fresh carpeting or someone’s sparkly shoes, keep your gaze close to the level of others.
Speak at a slower pace.
I may testify to the fact that when I’m anxious, I start talking as though my mouth had been pressed on the fast-forward button. This is one way for people to see how anxious you are in real life.
Take a deep breath in and out.
This is a sure way to calm your nerves and relax.
Don’t put your hand on your neck or forehead.
This communicates to others that you are defending yourself or that you are anxious.
When someone speaks to you, nod.
This is a constructive type of body language that shows you’re paying attention and participating in the conversation. It can also improve their self-esteem, and who doesn’t want to be around someone who makes them happy?
Make a point with your feet.
No, not in the manner of a ballerina. Your feet should be pointing in the direction of the person with whom you’re conversing.
Lower the volume of your voice.
According to studies, people with a deeper voice are taken more seriously
Steeple your hands. Or don’t.
This is something I found to be a little contentious. When you touch all of your fingers together to form a “steeple,” it’s called a hand steeple. Some body language coaches teach this behavior to make people feel more confident or commanding, while others find it unnatural. What are your thoughts? It should also be remembered that while “steepling,” you must maintain proper posture to avoid looking like Mr. Burns from The Simpsons.
Keep a safe distance.
There is also a grey field, since some people prefer near talkers, but the key point is to pay attention to those around you. Is it necessary for them to lean in close to hear you? Get a little closer. Are people turning their backs on you? Do not, for the love of God, keep going closer as they get farther away!
The most important way that others view you is through your body language. In order to attract the positive attention you want, you should appear calm, optimistic, and engaging. Try out a few of these ideas right now!